One of those foot-in-mouth moments

Those of us who live with disabilities sometimes are part of those “ooops” moments that others create. Most of us […]

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Those of us who live with disabilities sometimes are part of those “ooops” moments that others create. Most of us have had a few situations where someone doesn’t see a disability and how that disability affects our abilities.

But not all of us have these moments in a very public setting, as happened to singer Madonna earlier this month at a Los Angeles concert. Yes, that Madonna, she of pointy bras and provocative moments. I’ve never been a fan. She’s just too nasally a singer for me.

Madonna, like many other performers, is on tour. We’ve seen a lot of tours celebrating retirement or just marking a long career. The tours usually have a name. Madonna’s tour is the Celebration Tour. She’s 65 and has been performing for many years.

At a March 9 concert, Madonna called out a fan who was not standing up during her performance. How dare someone remain seated in the presence of the glorious queen of pop!

The problem was that the concert-goer uses a wheelchair. To clarify, the problem is Madonna’s.

The footage shot by another concert goer is pretty striking. “Take this ride with me! What are you doing sitting down over there? What are you doing sitting down?” Madonna challenged the seated concert-goer.

Our star then walked to the edge of the stage, saw that the person was in a wheelchair and quickly apologized.

“Oh, OK. Politically incorrect,” she said. “Sorry about that. I’m glad you’re here.”

Of course she was. I hope that foot was tasty.

Take this ride? Really?

Madonna was promptly and rightfully skewered on social media for that one. The entertainment publications billboard shared two quotes.

Does it matter if they’re sitting or standing? they paid for the ticket and took the time to be there? Isn’t that enough???” one user wrote on X (formerly Twitter), adding a shrugging emoji.

“Lots of people need to sit down who don’t use wheelchairs, too. This is honestly just gross, ableist behavior,” another X user wrote. “Appreciate that the person purchased a ticket and came to see you!”

What annoys me about all of this is that Madonna is 65. I am, too. I’d love to be able to sing, prance and dance around a stage night after night. This morning I hobbled to get coffee and almost tripped over a cat.

As one commenter noted, some of us cannot stand for long times on end. Some of us cannot stand at all. Even if I could afford many concert tickets, I cannot justify paying a lot to have people standing in front of me all night. I’ve kissed my rock and pop concert days goodbye.

So Madonna and other performers, please check your egos at the door. Yes, you want our attention. But don’t be ableist and don’t call us out. Otherwise, don’t expect us to celebrate with you.

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